As Baba Ram Dass (his 'spiritual name'), Richard Alpert explained human attachment as a 'clue that there's work to be done' ? meaning that territoriality was remastered by him as dysfunctional and primitive, and as requiring the curative attentions of a guru, ordinarily an older man.

It is happy for you that you possess the talent of flattering with delicacy. May I ask whether these pleasing attentions proceed from the impulse of the moment, or are they the result of previous study?

A man when he is making up to anybody can be cordial and gallant and full of little attentions and altogether charming. But when a man is really in love he can't help looking like a sheep.

Women are systematically degraded by receiving the trivial attentions which men think it manly to pay to the sex when in fact men are insultingly supporting their own superiority.